The dehumanization of men has become so common that many people don't even notice. Blaming men, making fun of men, shaming men, failing to have compassion for men, all of these things are happening every day and no one really notices or seems to care. This video looks at this process and at the inevitable devaluing placed on men's beings. How do red pilled men respond to this?

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Hines, M., Constantinescu, M., & Spencer, D. (2015). Early androgen exposure and human gender development. Biology of sex differences, 6, 3. doi:10.1186/s13293-015-0022-1
Early androgen exposure and human gender development

Lamminmaki A, Hines M, Kuiri-Hanninen T, Kilpelainen L, Dunkel L, Sankilampi U. Testosterone measured in infancy predicts subsequent sex-typed behavior in boys and in girls. Horm Behav. 2012;61:611–6. doi: 10.1016/j.yhbeh.2012.02.013. [PubMed] [CrossRef]

Pasterski VL, Hindmarsh P, Geffner M, Brook C, Brain C, Hines M. Increased aggression and activity level in 3- to 11-year-old girls with congenital adrenal hyperplasia (CAH) Horm Behav. 2007;52:368–74. doi:

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17. Savin-Williams, Ritch C. Adolescence: An Ethological Perspective. New York: Springer-Verlag, 1987. Print.

18. Maccoby, Eleanor E., and Carol Nagy Jacklin. "Gender Segregation in Childhood." Advances in Child Development and Behavior Advances in Child Development and Behavior 20 (1987): 239-87. Web.

19. Geary, David C. Male, Female: The Evolution of Human Sex Differences. Washington, DC: American Psychological Association, 2010. 322. Print.

20. Hassrick, Royal B., Cile M. Bach, and Dorothy Maxwell. The Sioux: Life and Customs of a Warrior Society. Norman, OK: University of Oklahoma, 1964. Print.

Happy International Men's Day!

A day to celebrate men and masculinity. Excellent.

But amidst that celebration it is important to note those who are hating men and boys. Sadly, that might be the majority of people.

Tom looks at the problem of false accusations and then turns to point out that actually all men in the US have been facing numerous false accusations from the media, academia, hollywood and who knows where else. When feminists proclaim that men are toxic that is nothing short of being a Global Cultural False Accusation. We need to see it like that and call out the liars!

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The Washington Post ran an article critical of a law under consideration in Italy that would revamp their child support laws. The Lawmakers claim that the bill would end child support and alimony. The feminist claim it would set back women's rights 50 years. Are they right?

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The two dx in the dsm 5 are parent-child relational problem and child affected by parental relationship distress. Thanks for asking this I should have put them in the information section.

Politicians are starting to acknowledge the presence of false accusations. The Kavanaugh hearings was an example of that. But what we don't hear about is that Kavanaugh is far from alone. The fact is that millions upon millions of men have faced false accusations whether from the family courts or a number of other avenues and very few are aware of this. Stephen Baskerville writes about what he wished Kavanaugh HAD said to the Senators. Baskerville eloquently speaks the truth.

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Paul and Tom talk with Chris Pekgoz about title IX and men's issues. The plan is to do a series on how to file a Title IX complaint. Paul and I will be learning how to do this and showing videos of our learning. It's time to get more people out there filing complaints!

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This is the second in the You Can't Make This Shit Up series. If you have a suggestion for an article let us know. If you want to join us and talk your article on the show let us know.

Tom's article on BOYS RAPED MORE OFTEN THAN GIRLS -- or his youtube titled Do Boys Face Childhood Sexual Abuse?


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Boys Encouraged to Wear Nail Polish, Massage Each Other at Gender Neutral School



This is from the article:

"Scholarship based less upon finding truth and more upon attending to social grievances has become firmly established, if not fully dominant, within these fields, and their scholars increasingly bully students, administrators, and other departments into adhering to their worldview."

and this:

"While our papers are all outlandish or intentionally broken in significant ways, it is important to recognize that they blend in almost perfectly with others in the disciplines under our consideration.

The biggest difference between us and the scholarship we are studying by emulation is that we know we made things up."

This is the first episode of the You Can't Make This Shit Up! series. Paul and Tom discuss a variety of current events stories involving false allegations and their huge impact on men and boys. This stuff is lethal and most people are completely unaware.

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The articles:

13 year old taken from school in handcuffs due to girls accusations of sex assault

Washington Post on Brett Kavanaugh accusations

NC Woman bites man's testicles:

This one says he testified that he was going to move out.

Our positive story....
College student, who made false rape claims against two football players, ROLLS HER EYES in court
during victim's statement about how she ruined his life, as she's sentenced to a year in jail

A look into the ways that masculinity has been demonized and how some of these ways have trickled down into the school system jeopardizing boys. One study is highlighted that examines the dangers faced by playful boys. The research showed that playful boys, exuberant, funny, likable boys were singled out by the teachers in 1st grade and by 3rd grade their classmates had changed their positive opinion of them as playmates to negative. The researchers implicate the teachers in this. Mind blowing stuff.

Here's a link to the full text of the study:


A short walk and talk on the C&O Canal with the topic being how our culture has reinforced the hatred of men.

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My article on this topic:

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This is the first video in the Boys and Schools playlist to focus on research. Learn what the benefits are of children being able to enjoy unstructured play, learn the things that have stifled that. Learn how countries around the world have used recess as a learning tool while we, in the US, leave our heads buried in the sand. Learn how research leads us to change our erroneous ways!


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Much of the research cited in this video can be found in this excellent paper that summarizes the various research on recess.

The nearly 200 year old canal that runs from Cumberland Maryland to Washington DC has been transformed into a National Historical Park. Tom takes a walk on the canal and looks at the canal's history and the connections with men's issues today.

The Washington Post ran an article titled "Why Can't We Hate Men." It was authored by Suzanne Walters, the director of Gender Studies at Northeastern University. The article clearly shows that Ms Walters hates men.

Hooray! Finally they admit the truth. They hate men. Now it's time to defund and dismantle the haters.

Will the SPLC step in?

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Our boys are under attack. The culture consistently voices anti male messages and are unaware of their blatant use of hurtful double standards.

the last study mentioned about boys and girls believing that girls are smarter.

Paul and Tom discuss the basics of family systems theory and take a look at family roles and how they help to stabilize the family but can often create long term havoc for the individual.

Men ARE good and so are fathers.

Our boys are under attack. They are being judged as toxic, privileged and who knows what else. This is happening simply because they were born male. This is insanity.

Paul Elam and Tom Golden take on the slippery slope of functional relationships between men and women in a red pilled world.

Parts one and two have shown us the feminist anti-boy push in our schools. This video looks at how schools are difficult for boys and how they have gotten far worse due to the sexism of feminists.

There is a large amount of research that has been done showing how boys are different and unique. Our educational system has kept their hand in the sand and refused to acknowledge such differences much less to teach our boys about these important differences.

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Here are some references if you want to dig a bit deeper:

Connellan, Jennifer, Simon Baron-Cohen, Sally Wheelwright, Anna Batki, and Jag Ahluwalia. “Sex Differences in Human Neonatal Social Perception.” Infant Behavior and Development 23.1 (2000): 113-18. Web.

Baron-Cohen, Simon. The Essential Difference: The Truth about the Male and Female Brain. New York: Basic, 2003. Print.

Hines, Melissa, Michaela Constantinescu, and Debra Spencer. “Early Androgen Exposure and Human Gender Development.” Biology of Sex Differences 6.1 (2015): n. pag. Web.

Eaton, Warren O., and Lesley R. Enns. “Sex Differences in Human Motor Activity Level.” Psychological Bulletin100.1 (1986): 19-28. Web.

Arnold, A. “Organizational and Activational Effects of Sex Steroids on Brain and Behavior: A Reanalysis.” Hormones and Behavior 19.4 (1985): 469-98. Web.

Alexander, Gerianne M. “Postnatal Testosterone Concentrations and Male Social Development.” Frontiers in Endocrinology 5 (2014): n. pag. Web.

Goy, R. “Behavioral Masculinization Is Indep..

This is an interview I did with Warren Farrell about his new book.
It was actually the first Q&A for Warren's Patreon site for his commission to seek a White House Council for Boys and Men. That Patreon site has excerpts from his book, my books and others. Interesting place. Check it out and become a patron. While you're at it come and be a patron at menaregood!

Part two looks at the deceit used by feminist in gaining huge amounts of funding for girls in schools. Our clueless legislators put their gynocentrism on steroids and voted them millions of dollars even though it was obviously boys who were more need. This trend has continued unabated.

Paul Elam and Tom Golden discuss the zany feminist Boston Marathon details.

A look into the overt strategy of 20th century feminists to socialize both boys and girls with the goal of eliminating sex roles and ultimately eliminating gender altogether. This video looks at their efforts in the educational system to re-educate boys. This effort has been ongoing since the 1970's and has produced a misandrist system that utterly fails in understanding and caring for our boys.

The information in this video was mostly drawn from CH Sommers book The War on Boys and the wonderful but largely unknown book The Feminist Crusades: Making Myths and Building Bureaucracies
by Frank Zepezauer. If you want to inform yourself about the feminist building of bureaucracies read this book.

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A quick spoof on the ridiculous idea of toxic masculinity.


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This channel was created by Tom Golden, LCSW. You may remember him from the documentary the Red Pill. He's a therapist who has been working with men and boys for 30+ years and has been fighting the mental health system's gynocentric devaluing of men and boys. He has written three books on men and healing and was the vice chair of the Maryland Commission for Men's Health. The mission for menaregood is to bring greater awareness to the hardship and discrimination that men and boys face while offering them compassion and choice. We have a long way to go.