STEF! PLEASE SAVE MY MARRIAGE FOR CHRISTMAS!

Audio: https://soundcloud.com/stefan-molyneux/stef-please-save-my-marriage-by-christmas

You recently did a call in show about how to save your marriage and I felt you had some really good insight and advice. To piggyback off that episode - I have a situation that is similar to the caller from that show (if things had deteriorated further.) My wife told me today that in her eyes the marriage is over and she's done. I want to get your input on if my marriage can be saved, and potential ways to do that.

We had our son in 2014- and then suffered back to back miscarriages before having our daughter in 2017. (More on this in a bit as well)

The reason she states our relationship is over is based on what she says has been years of not being heard- and my self-admitted anger issues, along with a lack of support from the outside.

I think we had very similar arguments to any married couple. I don't handle confrontation very well- and would often pull back until I felt I could properly address and respond to a conflict- she wanted it wrapped up immediately. This would often lead to me retreating and her pursuing until I would lash out and say something hurtful. She would then stay awake upset- while I would go to bed. We don't fight often- but those blowouts poison you after a period of time.

These arguments would often start over something trivial and then build into the fate of our relationship. I am not rationalizing my way out of my hurtful outbursts- but I often felt unprepared to deal with mountainous issues on the fly- and consciously or subconsciously felt like if I could show her how angry the pursuit was- that maybe she would back off or see my point of view. That tactic never served me well and never worked.

I admit to saying things, swearing, sometimes throwing things in fits of anger and frustration. I am ashamed of those occurrences and would take them back if I could. It's nothing your spouse should ever do. In her mind- the damage has been done for ..