https://www.divorcebusting.com/sb_the_divorce_remedy.htm
But this doesn't stop many therapists from acting as if they have a crystal ball. They say, "If your husband won't attend therapy, it means he's not committed to your marriage and nothing you do will make a difference," or "It seems as if your wife has lost feeling for you, why don't you just get on with your life,?" or "As long as your husband is having an affair, you might as well assume your marriage isn't going to survive," or "Why are you hanging on to this marriage, your wife has already filed for divorce?" Although these predicaments might make marital repair more challenging, none of them is, by any means, a marital death sentence. Far from it! Telling people that their marriage is doomed is, in my opinion, fortune telling at best, unethical, at worst!
Besides therapists' personal experiences, there are other reasons they might not be advocates for marriage. Their professional training may stand in the way. Although it may seem strange, the whole premise upon which traditional therapy is based may not be conducive to helping people work out problems when the going gets tough. For instance, therapists are trained to encourage people to pursue the parts of their lives that will bring personal happiness and satisfaction, even if these goals are at odds with what's best for the marriage, the children or even the individual in question in the long run. The therapist wants you to feel good and do whatever it takes to make that happen.
The jewish gottman institute predicts divorce of others in an unethical and destructive way after being funded to do so at the University of Washington through the misuse of our taxes:
https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-6-things-that-predict-divorce/
...In “The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work,” I list the six things that predict divorce. This ability to predict divorce is based in part on my analysis of the 130 newlywed couples who were observed at the “Love Lab” apartment at the University of Washington....
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