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These 20 Regrets From People On Their Deathbeds Will Change Your Life
Kyle B. Hart
Perhaps the 5 most powerful words ever spoken to me. No matter how immortal we feel waltzing through lifes ups and downs, we all must someday stare death in its devious eyes as we reflect on our lives. Life is complex, sure. Thats a given. But if you really ponder for a moment, it can be boiled down to 2 feelings youll most likely be met with on your deathbed:
Triumph or regret.
Thankfully, every day is a great day to get better. Every day is a perfect day to change the track of your life, to reroute the potentially destructive path of a life wasted.
What better place to start than people in their final days:
1. I wish I wouldnt have compared myself to others.
Everyone struggles with this, but theres nearly nothing thats so detrimental to fulfillment. Instead of comparing yourself to your friends, family, or idols, reflect on how far youve come as a person, even if its just the person you were yesterday.
2. I wish Id taken action and dove in head first.
Ill let you in on a little secret: there is no right way. So many people are paralyzed by the idea of what they want to be because they worry it wont happen as quickly as they want. Well, it wont. But whats worse than dedicating time to your dream each day and seeing snail-like progress? A life wasted doing things you dont want to.
3. I wish Id tuned the world out more.
Everyone around you tries to dictate what you are or who you should be, but you let them. No one needs to validate your worth besides yourself, and you will someday deeply regret if you spend your life pleasing the world around you. Dont worry about pleasing your parents, friends, or bosses. You need to worry about number 1 first and foremost. Always.
4. I wish I didnt wait to start it tomorrow.
Excuses are plentiful because theyre so easy to make. You will always find reasons to validate your inaction, and this is a common cause of deathbed regret. The things you want to do tomorrow can effortlessly turn into things you wish you did 50 years ago.
5. I wish Id taken more chances.
The fear of rejection or failure dissipates in the face of death. The pretty girl you didnt ask out on a date, the job you didnt apply for because you felt under qualified, or the business you believed in but didnt start will weigh heavier on your shoulders than falling flat on your face and learning.
6. I wish I would have kept going.
Even if you are brave enough to take the chance, failure happens. Where this failure can turn into major regret, however, is a decision to quit. When you let the pressure of falling short overcome your love for your endeavor, you lost. Keep going.
7. I wish Id told others how much I love them.
Everyone wants to feel appreciated, but very few are wiling to tell others how much they appreciate them. So often we are wrapped up in gaining love but fail to give it to the ones we care about most. Tell them often, before its too late.
8. I wish I was content with what I have.
Be it more money, more recognition, or more options, we always want more of something. Very few are able to take an honest step back and recognize that what they have is more than enough. Its always good to want more from life, but its essential to truly appreciate what you have.
9. I wish I took better care of my body.
Todays society tells us that taking care of yourself is synonymous with a chiseled six pack. This is by no means true. Making healthy choices is important in all facets of life, not just physical exercise. Not eating junk food, not smoking a pack of cigarettes a day, and not drinking every weekend are 3 pretty easy ways to start.
10. I wish Id listened to others more.
Everyone thinks theyre right all the time and everyone has opinions that they sometimes force on others. Its alright to have them, but its more important to have the ability to listen. Even if you dont agree with the point of view, challenge yourself to hear others without passing judgement.
11. I wish Id have not held that grudge.
Its discouraging when someone hurts you, especially if that person means a lot to you. But harboring grudges hurts you in the long term more than it did initially.
12. I wish Id have traveled more.
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People often mistake that traveling has to involve a foreign country and a couple thousand dollars. Phooey. Jump in the car, drive an hour to a nearby city, and explore something you havent before. Dont jail yourself in your house because of erroneous notions of what it means to travel.
13. I wish Id have laughed it off.
You take yourself far too seriously. Heck, we all do. One of the major regrets people have in life is simply taking life too seriously. Bad things are bound to happen, sure. But theyre pretty muc
