Schrodinger's Cat, a box, an observer, and a tie-in to our significant person. A little poetic license maybe, but a sound analogy.
When we are nervous about asking that question or reaching out because of what might happen. When we fear the what if. We have to turn that around, what if we can do this? What if are doing this? It is our question to ask, and with the knowledge we get back from asking, we can move forward with a better understanding of the next steps...
Don't be afraid to ask the question... If you are nervous about it, it is probably a good idea. If it makes your palms sweat, then it is definitely a good idea. ;)