OUTDOOR MILONGA HELMOND CS Mar 16th 2022

When I visit events with other dance styles than tango, the participants seem to feel more need for sexually oriented activity.

I think because the intimacy during tango is so high, that it's already satisfying enough.
Especially for women.

On the other hand, the more women tend to be focused on "unpleasant" behavior of men, the more they seem to be unaware of showing the same behavior themselves.

For example rules to avoid unpleasant situations usually include the prohibition to start hanging the follower upside down too early or to "teach" the partner what to do during the dance. Or the option to stop dancing if the leader is pushing you around.

While after that being said, several women tend to throw themselves backward before I do anything in order to hang them upside down, tend to teach me steps, without any request for that from me,
and all tend to push and pull me around themselves, probably hoping it's what I wanted to lead them in.

This connects with everyday life trying to change others, that usually doesn't work.

Translated to dancing,
if you feel being pushed around by your leader and you try to stop your leader from pushing, by pushing back, he most probably will feel this counter-pressure as an invitation to push harder.

If you simply disconnect, there will be nothing left for pushing against.