Get Over a Crush Part 2 - 130 - A Beautiful Thought

When we begin to feel infatuated with someone, there is normally an associated feeling of lack. We have given up our own power, somehow believing that the object of our affections is somehow in control of or responsible for our emotions.

In analyzing our beliefs about the situation, we might find beliefs such as:

“I need someone to love me romantically to feel complete.”

“This person in particular must be my partner.”

“This feeling of love means this person must fulfill a particular role in my life.”

When we ask ourselves if these things are true, we quickly find that they’re not accurate. There are times in our lives when we have felt complete without a romantic partner, and when we have a particular feeling that does not mean that a certain person will ultimately be a part of our life in the way we expect.

Having examined the beliefs, we can choose beliefs that are more realistic, that result in less frustration and more contentment. For example:

“I am complete now, of myself. I can feel a broad range of emotions, including love and happiness, on my own.”

“I am responsible for my own happiness and love. My emotions are my responsibility. I don’t need to depend on any other person to generate these.”

“Interpretations of emotions can be treated as separate from the emotions.”

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