Feminists say we live in a "rape culture", where most rapes are not reported, but are actually happening everywhere all the time. Men's rights activists are very concerned about false rape accusations. It may be that a lot of what happens out there are actually misunderstandings.
If so, I suspect they happen because people don't have good enough communication on a sexual level, because they don't yet know each other well enough on that level.
They may not make clear enough their intentions or lack thereof, or might not interpret correctly each other's intentions or lack thereof. They might feel pressured into going along and/or pressured into performing.
It's best that people have time to consider whether or not to have sex, and an easy way of backing out if they choose not to.
An example of a misunderstanding might go like this: She may not be certain whether or not she wants to do it at that moment, while he is nervous, inside his head, assuming she expects him to perform. He doesn't want to disappoint her by not initiating. She may not stop him because she doesn't want to hurt his feelings, and he may assume that her apparent lack of enjoyment is due to his subpar performance and not to her uncertainty about wanting to have sex, so he keeps going trying to do better, and she keeps going because she doesn't know how (or whether) to tell him to stop.
Perhaps for most people a misunderstanding of this type may be extremely unlikely, but for a minority of the population it may not be. This minority might be three percent, twenty percent; i don't know (among young and/or inexperienced people it could be substantially higher than among older and/or more experienced people. Also, people who have never had sex (with each other) before will understand each other less clearly than those who have). I do know that some people are more functional than others [rapists and false accusers can also be considered 'dysfunctional' but that is not the type of dysfunctional i mean. i mean people who are dysfunctional who are 'good people' so to speak.] When it comes to functionality with sexual communication, like with everything else, there is a bell curve. In every bell curve there is a percentage of people who are well below average. There are people who have schizophrenia, autism, very low self esteem, low levels of social functionality, borderline personality disorder, who knows. There are women (and men) who don't know how to say no well enough. There are men (and women) who don't know how to read signals well enough. If two of those people meet, the odds are higher.
The procedure described in the video is for the purpose of getting to know each other slowly and methodically, develop good communication with that particular person, and avoid such misunderstandings.
This, of course, would not prevent actual rapes or actual false rape accusations. Hopefully, though, as I suspect, those are much more rare.
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Whether or not to convict someone (of either rape or of making a false accusation) for what may have been a misunderstanding is the 'how to respond after the fact' question (the justice question). That is a difficult question and it is not what I'm addressing. This video focuses on 'before the fact' (prevention). It is one possible answer to the question: "how do you prevent these types of misunderstandings from happening in the first place"?
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Btw, this should never be incorporated into a law. Such a law would obviously be tyranical. This is just an idea for people to use if they want to.
