The main reason for me to put so much effort in trying to inspire people to start dancing outdoors, is to lower the level of snobism in the dance sector, welcoming a bigger variety of people to enjoy the benefits of social contact without restrictions, independent from authorities or money,.
But during my last trip to Malmö and Copenhagen I realized that we need snobism if we really want to get to know ourselves and grow.
Meeting people who share our values feels great but meeting people who don't, is the only way to check the benefit of our own values in order to confirm that benefit or as an indicator to adjust our values.
But how can I feel comfortable in a situation where nobody makes eye contact unless I jump in front of them?
Although I don't feel comfortable inviting people who don't even look at me, it brought me some pleasant dances and when others saw how much fun we had, some of them even came to invite me.
Until I ask a young lady that seems to be a teacher.
I kind of took her by surprise by jumping up when she turned her face to me and she accepted but after one dance she's telling me she has to stop as there is something in her shoe.
But after sitting down taking her shoe off and putting it back on again, she turns away like she never saw me before.
So I decided not to invite anymore and to have a look at the faces passing by.
Some smiling but the majority looking so extremely serious that it makes me laugh.
The moment I decide that it wouldn't get any better than this, a lady that avoided me all evening looking kind of angry and clearly avoiding me,
approaches me saying that she remembers me "skolding" her in 2018.
I ask her what "skolding" means and she tells me that I told her that I didn't want to dance with her because she's a bad dancer.
I immediately start defending myself that she probably misunderstood but she explains that I didn't want to dance anymore because she was leading instead of following.
Unfortunately, again I defend myself saying that I love to be lead.
"Well, anyways" she says, "I'm here to ask you if you want to dance with me, because now I'm a better dancer".
"Of course I want to dance with you!" I say.
So we dance and after the first song I tell her with a smile that I'm happy that not everything went perfect, as that's part of the game.
Eventually I thank her for sharing her feelings and apologize for saying anything that made her feel bad before.
We hug and smile and she thanks me for the wonderful dances.
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