50 Shades of Jesus - Ubiquitous Self Worship in Christianity

We have that experience where people say stuff like ''I don't feel Christ is like that'' or 'I don't think Jesus would have a problem with this'' or ''I don't believe that God would reject such a person''. We also notice the constant self reference, and whilst we always wait for the them to substantiate these assertions, it never comes. You are just given musings, opinions, feelings and so on.

Here are examples of an actual conversation I have had with a Christian, honest to God, this was the very same person in the very same conversation.

''I feel like necromancy has more to do with other spirits that arent connected directly with you. I do divining for my family, I like that.''
''I dont think our culture is demonic''
''I think that the concept of what a spirit is or isnt has shifted over time''.
''it fits with my understanding with the world and my relationship with God and nature, if anything it strengthens my relationship with christ I'd say.'
''but I don't base my relationship with God and christ on judeo-christian framework.''
''I base this on biblically + ideologies rooted in akan culture''

Nothing but ludicrous self reference
Why do so called christian do such things these days? Why are there hundreds of different versions of God and Christ popping up all over the place?
I attempt to answer this in this video. Clue... narcissism.