Copied from https://youtu.be/8bM677KRwKk
So many people have a way of following a program like they are in a cult, but you don't necessarily know what program they are following. Probably those who behave in evil ways can actually think they are in the right and have every right to abuse the target because they perceive a reason for what the are doing.
"If they beat anyone up it was the other person's fault." Except you don't know what criteria they are using to find fault in the other person.
Quite a complex and precarious reality once you realize just how weird so many people are at the mind-soul level. Some will say they hate people and some will say they love people. The truth is, people vary so much. There seems a common idea people are much more uniform than is anywhere close to the reality. The outward differences dramatically pale compared to inward differences.
Two comments I want to share. First: "They destroyed my child. Looking back it's so clear. They start looking at you differently and acting out. With a repetition compulsion. It was such a tragedy. Sociopaths enjoy directing hatred and abuse toward a target."
Second, and one I really like:
Okay, I"m sure you've noticed this topic is becoming viral which is a God Send. I just came upon you page and couldn't help but pick up from your back ground, you kinda like to read and prolly have some awesome knowledge. Now, okay. What are you doing to fix this. You need a support group. Can you put a video on how folks can get help for themselves. I've noticed there's viral identification now, but now we need to get the message out on how we can get help. I just found out my situation 3 weeks ago. Oh, below is what I've discovered to identify NARCS:
I've spent 38 years trying to figure out where and how I can fix my marriage - THIRTY-EIGHT YEARS!!!!!!!! What I discovered is it wasn't all me. Yes, it was me in that I'm a co-dependent/NARC enabler, but little did I know, until 3 weeks ago, why my marriage never worked and that it will never work. I was married to a COVERT NARC. How do I know? Simple. The NARC cannot self examine. One question, will expose the NARC. You ready? Pass this on to your Patients. Get your patient to ask the suspect Covert Narc (their spouse) how they've contributed to failings of the relationship(s). Literally they will check out right in front of you. They will gas light you, get up and leave, spin the conversation, or just stair at you as a deer in the headlights. Again, simply ask what their short comings are and watch what happens. At a maximum they will say, they've screwed up, they will say they're not perfect, they will say they are trying. But they CANNOT BE SPECIFIC in what they are admitting to. Ask them to give examples, and when/how they've implemented better behavior? A full blown NARC cannot, I repeat, CANNOT give you this information. These questions are like you're the sun coming up on a vampire, it's a wooden stake in their heart, a clove of garlic, a mirror. They literally will melt in front of you. Again, if they do eke out admission they're not perfect, it will be so generic you won't know what they are admitting to. The next confirmation that will blow your mind is to ask what they mean or can they expand on their short comings, they'll gas light your ass up. I'm telling you, this will set you free.......... Also, the most powerful thing you can do to get your brain around this, is to covertly turn on your iPhone and tape record this. Then after you've done this a dozen times with your Narc, listen to the recordings while soaking in the tub, having a glass of wine to calm your nerves.......... it will give you the chills knowing what you've given your life up to and who you're actually sleeping next to. Don't beat yourself up. Just help others..........
