"My Stepbrother Shot Me - How Do I Move On?" Freedomain Call In

Audio: https://soundcloud.com/stefan-molyneux/fdr-4363-my-stepbrother-shot-me-how-do-i-move-on-freedomain-call-in

"Hello, My name is [X] I am 20 years old and I would love to talk to Stef about a few different things.

I have often wondered when does personal responsibility and having a bad childhood meet? At what point do we put the blame on that individual and not there upbringing? Is there a point or is your life strongly determined by those early years and you will forever be a "victim" to your early years? This question I have often pondered because I look at my own life and the bad childhood. I was molested by boys and girls in my neighborhoods at a very young age and those things continued until I was 11, I was exposed to pornography very young, my mother died when I was 8, my ex step moms neglected me heavily and at times hit me, their kids did similar things to me growing up, my father abandoned me for a time to my horrible ex step moms after my mom died, and it goes on. These things have shaped me to who I am but I don't see myself as a victim. I'm a guy who is married to his best friend and high school sweetheart with a great job with greater opportunities coming. I have a great social circle with the best friend, but even before those things I felt I have built a resiliency or tolerance for bad things which has made me stronger.
Maybe it comes from my religious views, views on the world, and also I think it is probably strongly influenced by people like Stef whom have become such a positive influence in my life over the years. I don't feel like I'm gifted in anyway I just work hard and try to live my life
within a set of values.

The reason I say this is because I listen to countless people who call in that have experienced absolutely horrific childhoods. Those childhood experiences obviously have greatly affected their current place in life. My question is I guess simply, when do we tell someone "you had a bad childhood that's why you may be where yo..