Dancing in connection is easier when the partner named “follower” starts with the leading role.
Until the leader takes over, as soon as everything runs smooth enough.
Connecting while both moving to the music is an illusion.
Just like being equal is an illusion in a hierarchie.
Try letting yourself be moved by the movement of your partner.
Or try moving the legs of your partner to the rhythm of the music.
Using the connection your partner is providing for that.
The difficult part of that is not the movement or your repertoire,
but rather, maintaining to be yourself without wanting to change the other,
or wanting to live up to expectations yourself or admitting to fears.
Wanting to anticipate or helping the other with his task.
Difficulties with not being good at it already.
Difficulties with giving away control.
Practicing not to react to movements from the leader, can be a way to maintain being yourself,
until you feel enough pressure to provide the counter-pressure needed to let yourself be moved.
Or even to stop the leader from moving.
Or let him stop you from moving.
So he can fasten your shoe laces, for example.
If the leader feels your counter-pressure as a reaction to the pressure he’s providing,
He can make a step with your leg and put his foot in the space that is created.
By clearly moving his weight from left to right, he can also move your weight from left to right,
so he can feel which leg he can move.
And before the walking would get boring, new possibilities to move her will start to exist.
As long as she will provide counterpressure as a reaction to the pressure she receives,
you move like one body on four legs.
And come to a halt like one body on four legs.
This way you can play with the pressure and counter-pressure you receive.
During this play, you will get to know the personality of your partner.
But moreover your own personality and how you can handle the one of your partner,
and how useless it is to blame anyone/anything except yourself for any failure.
You learn to handle rejection, setback, arrogance and shame.
But also attention, affection, intimacy and teamwork.
The power to develop yourself in any social field.
With old friends but also with complete strangers.
Spontaneous and for anyone available.
Independent from money, authorities, rules or regulations.
Because what is it what you are looking for when you…
When you supposedly “go out, chill out, or going out for a drink”...?
Searching for sexuality as a result of a shortage of social contact?
Social contact, a good conversation, affection, humanity?
DO TRY THIS AT HOME!
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